Notes From the Couch

Dear Sarah,

I’m a proud resident of Chicago. I am alarmed every day by the escalating violence from ICE agents and violations of our constitutional rights. My fear is dominating my life right now and I do not feel hopeful that it is going to get better.

-Chicago

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Dear Chicago,

What is happening in our city is both terrifying and unjust. I see your pain and fear, and I want you to know that your response is completely valid. It makes sense to feel overwhelmed, to feel afraid. I am also scared, and I feel deep sadness and anger about these raids and the way peaceful protestors are being misrepresented.

I wish I had a simple answer that could bring you the safety and peace you deserve. While I do not have that, I want to offer a few tools that might help you care for yourself during this turbulent time.

Anxiety is a natural response our bodies use when we are under threat. It is meant to protect us, but it can also cloud our ability to think clearly and problem-solve. If you are waking up with a heavy feeling in your chest, if fear is making it difficult to work or stay connected with others, take a moment to pause. Recognize what you are feeling. You might say to yourself, "It makes sense that I am scared right now. What is happening is inhumane and frightening." Then, ask yourself, "Can I show courage in this moment? Can I stay grounded in what I believe and take even one small action that reflects those values?"

Fear is powerful. It can distort our logic and shift our behavior. Psychiatrist and neuroscientist Arash Javanbakht, who specializes in fear and trauma, reminds us that fear can take hold in ways that are deeply human, but also restrictive.

When you feel unsteady, try making a list of the people, values, and movements you trust most in this world. Let yourself reflect on the strength and resilience that live in those connections. Right now, I believe in the power of the civil rights leaders who marched before us and the queer community who led ACT UP. I trust my family and friends, who continue to show up and fight for justice, safety, and dignity.

Stay close to your own humanity. If you are feeling rage or sadness or grief, let that be a sign that you are still deeply moved by what is happening around you. That means your heart is still open. That means you care. And love is powerful.

As Ta-Nehisi Coates once wrote, "I would not have you descend into your own dream. I would have you be a conscious citizen of this terrible and beautiful world."

Thank you for reaching out. Your pain is real, and it echoes what many of us are feeling here in Chicago. Please remember, you are not alone.